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A Special Mom

2010-09-30T19:41:00.000-07:00

A mother passes away but it is clear to us that you lives forever in our hearts.
you are not forgotten, though on earth you are no more, still in memory you are with us, as you always were before.

For You Mom ( Trinidad Paderes Naron Nov 22, 1952 ~ Oct 03, 2009 )

A Special Mom
© Kelley D. Osman
Mom loved us from our first breath, held our hands through the years, guided us along the paths that our lives took, taught us that there is nothing we can't make it through to hold our faith and follow our hearts. She gave us her all and asked nothing in return.

She gave us all the stepping stones in life to become the people we are today, and through it all she stood proud of us all. Her family (husband, children and grandchildren) meant everything in the world to her.

It will be hard on us to let her go physically, but we carry her with us each and everyday in our hearts and our thoughts. The sun rising will remind us of the warmth of her love. Flowers blooming will remind us of her love for life. Our trials and tribulations will remind us of how strong willed she was. There's a part of her in each and every person that hears or reads this and we can all be so honored that she was a part of our lives.

We will always love you mom. We will carry you with us each day in our hearts. We will mourn our loss but rejoice that you are in a better place sitting with your loved ones, awaiting our arrival one day.

My lips cannot tell how I miss you, my heart cannot tell what to say; God alone knows how I miss you, our home is much too lonesome today.
I love you very Much Mama!!!

20 Keys To A Happy Life

2009-07-18T22:52:00.000-07:00

( Author Unknown )

1) Compliment 3 people everyday!
2) Watch a sunrise
3) Be the first to say "hello"
4) Treat everyone as you want to be treated

5) Live beneath your means
6) Forget the Joneses
7) Never give up on anybody - miracles happen!
8) Remember someone's name
9) Be kinder than you have to be
10) Wish not for things, but for wisdom and courage
11) Be tough-minded, but tender hearted
12) Don't forget that a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated
13) Keep your promises
14) Leave everything better than you found it
15) Show cheerfulness even when you don't feel it
16) Remember that winners do what losers don't want to do
17) Remember that overnight success usually takes 15 years
18) When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten everyone's day
19) Don't rain on other people's parades
20) Don't waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them

“It's not all about money
it's about helping yourself helping others and giving back.”

You are so fortunate,
but what are you giving back to make this world a better place for others?"

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NEW ONE

2009-07-06T06:30:00.000-07:00

If LOVE gets broken,
You can look for a NEW ONE

If a GLASS gets broken
You can look for a NEW ONE

But if FRIENDSHIP gets broken
You can never have the same ONE

Sulat ni Tatay at Nanay sa Atin (Rev. Fr. Ariel F. Robles)

2009-06-27T21:44:00.000-07:00

Sa aking pagtanda, unawain mo sana ako at pagpasensiyahan.

Kapag dala ng kalabuan ng mata ay nakabasag ako ng pinggan
o nakatapon ng sabaw sa hapag kainan, huwag mo sana akong kagagalitan.
Maramdamin ang isang matanda. Nagse-self-pity ako sa tuwing sinisigawan mo ako.

Kapag mahina na ang tenga ko at hindi ko maintindihan
ang sinasabi mo, huwag mo naman sana akong sabihan
ng "binge!" paki-ulit nalang ang sinabi mo o pakisulat nalang.
Pasensya ka na, anak. Matanda na talaga ako.

Kapag mahina na ang tuhod ko, pagtiyagaan mo sana akong
tulungang tumayo, katulad ng pag-aalalay ko sa iyo
noong nag-aaral ka pa lamang lumakad.

Pagpasensyahan mo sana ako kung ako man ay
nagiging makulit at paulit-ulit na parang sirang plaka.
Basta pakinggan mo nalang ako. Huwag mo sana akong

Pagtatawanan o pagsasawaang pakinggan.

Natatandaan mo anak noong bata ka pa?
kapag gusto mo ng lobo, paulit-ulit mo 'yong sasabihin,
maghapon kang mangungulit hangga't hindi mo nakukuha ang gusto mo.
Pinagtyagaan ko ang kakulitan mo.

Pagpasensyahan mo na rin sana ang aking amoy. Amoy matanda, amoy lupa.
Huwag mo sana akong piliting maligo. Mahina na ang katawan ko.
Madaling magkasakit kapag nalamigan, huwag mo sana akong pandirihan.

Natatandaan mo noong bata ka pa? Pinagtyagaan kitang habulin

Sa ilalim ng kama kapag ayaw mong maligo.

Pagpasensyahan mo sana kung madalas, ako'y masungit,

Dala na marahil ito ng katandaan. Pagtanda mo, maiintindihan mo rin.

Kapag may konti kang panahon, magkwentuhan naman tayo, kahit sandali lang.
Inip na ako sa bahay, maghapong nag-iisa. Walang kausap.

Alam kong busy ka sa trabaho, subalit nais kong malaman mo na sabik na sabik

Na akong makakwentuhan ka, kahit alam kong hindi ka interesado sa mga kwento ko.

Natatandaan mo anak, noong bata ka pa?
Pinagtyagaan kong pakinggan at intindihin
ang pautal-utal mong kwento tungkol sa iyong teddy bear.

At kapag dumating ang sandali na ako'y magkakasakit
at maratay sa banig ng karamdaman,
huwag mo sana akong pagsawaang alagaan.

Pagpasensyahan mo na sana kung ako man ay maihi o madumi sa higaan,
Pagtyagaan mo sana akong alagaan sa mga huling sandali ng aking buhay.
Tutal hindi na naman ako magtatagal.

Kapag dumating ang sandali ng aking pagpanaw, hawakan mo sana ang aking kamay
At bigyan mo ako ng lakas ng loob na harapin ang kamatayan.

At huwag kang mag-alala, kapag kaharap ko na ang Diyos na lumikha,
ibubulong ko sa kanya na pagpalain ka sana ...
Dahil naging mapagmahal ka sa iyong ama't ina...

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DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? ( By: Bo Sanchez)

2009-06-27T21:41:00.000-07:00

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,

"How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a
large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this
question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your
spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's
why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the
imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there;
doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle
of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),
touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead
of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think
about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking,

"Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience
with someone else. This is when marriages break down. People blame
their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church,
a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer
to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm
not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And
TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few
years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

The Key To Succeeding in
Marriage Is Not Finding The Right
Person; It's Learning To Love The
Person You found!

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes
WISDOM.. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no
mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you
can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as
there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are
also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program
makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make
yourmarriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and
apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . not just a feeling.
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GIVE THE FOLLOWING GIFTS:

2009-06-12T07:28:00.000-07:00

To your enemy . . .forgiveness,
To your opponent . . .tolerance.
To a friend . . . your heart.
To a customer . . . service.
To all men . . .charity.
To every child . . . a good example
To yourself . . .respect

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Quotes To Live By

2009-06-12T07:26:00.000-07:00

Cherish things while you still have them,
before they're gone,
and you realize how precious they really are.

Life can only be understood backwards,
but it must be lived forwards.

Everything in life is temporary.
So if things are going good,
enjoy it because it won't last forever.
And if things are going bad,
don't worry because it won't last forever either.

Destiny is not a matter of chance,
it is a matter of choice;
it is not a thing to be waited for,
it is a thing to be achieved.

A journey of a thousand miles
begins with a single step.

Never cross a bridge
without knowing how to swim the tides.

If you could not add years to your life
Add life to your years.

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LIFE QUOTES (BY DR. HENRY BRANDT)

2009-06-12T07:25:00.001-07:00

"The heart of the problem is a problem with the heart.”

“You’re just a prayer away from a change of heart.”

“Finding relief in your problem is fine, but it will not cure the problem.”

“My environment can give me relief from sin and tension, only the Lord can cure it.”

“You can manage your sin, but that’s not repentance.”

“If it’s sin, that’s good news! Sin is the simplest thing in the world to deal with.”

“There’s no human remedy for sin.”

“Jesus wants to give you peace.”

“You would think that everyone would leap at the chance to get rid of sin. Not so. They want relief not a cure.”

“Your walk with God does not depend on people, places, things or events.”

“You don’t have a marriage problem, you have a sin problem.”

“I am a victim of my own behavior.”

“God’s children have a limitless supply of the fruit of the Spirit.”

“Biblical counseling is listening to a person long enough until you hear a violation of scripture.”

“Anger is inside you, revealed by an outside source.”

“And one day, when the Lord comes back, everything is going to burn — pooof! In the end we will compare ash piles. Will your ash pile be bigger than my ash pile?”

“What your soul needs is a check up.”

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Being A Single Parent

2009-05-30T20:14:00.000-07:00

A single parent is a parent who cares for children without the assistance of another person in the home. The legal definition of "single parenthood" may vary according to the local laws of different nations or regions.

Single parenthood may occur as the result of many things. Often it is opted for by the parent (as in adoption, artificial insemination, surrogate motherhood, or extramarital pregnancy), and often it is an unforeseeable occurrence (as in the death of one parent, divorce, or abandonment by one parent).

A single mother by choice is a woman who decided to have or adopt a child, knowing she would be her child's sole parent, at least at the outset. Typically, we are career women in our thirties and forties. The ticking of our biological clocks has made us face the fact that we could no longer wait for marriage before starting our families. Some of us went to a doctor for donor insemination or adopted in the United States or abroad. Others accidentally became pregnant and discovered we were thrilled.

Most of us would have preferred to bring a child into the world with two loving parents, but although we have a lifetime to marry or find a partner, nature is not as generous in allotting child-bearing years.

Single motherhood is ideally for the woman who feels she has much to give a child and who has adequate emotional and financial resources to support herself and her child.

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MOTHER

2009-05-30T20:13:00.000-07:00

This is a truly BEAUTIFUL piece. Please
Read this at a slow pace, digesting every word and in
Leisure...do not hurry....this is a treasure...

For those lucky to still be blessed with your Mom,
This is beautiful. For those of us who aren't, this is
Even more beautiful. For those who are moms, you'll love this.

The young mother set her foot on the path of life. "Is
This the long way?" she asked. And the guide said:
"Yes, and the way is hard.
And you will be old before you reach the end of it.. But
The end will be better than the beginning."

But the young mother was happy, and she would not
Believe that anything could be better than these years.
So she Played with her children, and gathered flowers for
Them along the way, and bathed them in the clear streams;
and The sun shone on them, and the young Mother cried,
"Nothing will ever be lovelier than this."
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Then the night came, and the storm, and the path was
Dark, and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother
Drew them close and covered them with her mantle, and the children said,
"Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can come."

And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and
The children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was
weary.
But at all times she said to the children," A little patience and we are there."
So the children climbed, and when they reached the top
They said, "Mother, we would not have done it without you."

And the mother, when she lay down at night looked up
At the stars and said, "This is a better day than the last, for my
Children have learned fortitude in the face of hardness.
Yesterday I gave them courage.
Today, I 've given them strength."

And the next day came strange clouds which darkened
The earth, clouds of war and hate and evil, and the children groped
And stumbled, and the mother said: "Look up. Lift your eyes to
the light.

" And the children looked and saw above the clouds
An everlasting glory, and it guided them beyond the
Darkness. And that night the Mother said,
"This is the best day of all, for
I have shown my children God."

And the days went on, and the weeks and the months and
The years, and the mother grew old and she was little and bent.
But her children were tall and strong, and walked with
Courage. And when the way was rough, they lifted her,
For she was as light as a feather; and at last they came to a
hill, And beyond they could see a shining road and golden gates
flung wide. And
Mother said, "I have reached the end of my journey. And
now I know the end Is better than the beginning, for my children can
Walk alone, and their children after them."

And the children said, "You will always walk with us,
Mother, even when you have gone through the gates."
And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, and the gates
Closed after her. And they said: "We cannot see her
But she is with us still. A Mother like ours is more than a >memory. She
Is a living presence......."

Your Mother is always with you.... She's the whisper
Of the leaves as you walk down the street; she's the
smell of bleach In your freshly laundered socks; she's the cool hand
On your brow when you're not well. Your Mother lives
Inside your laughter. And she's crystallized in every tear drop.
She's the place you came from, your first home; and
she's the map you follow with every step you take. She's your first love
And your first heartbreak, and nothing on earth can
Separate you.

Not time, not space... Not even death!

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A soulful relationship

2009-05-25T06:11:00.000-07:00

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married,share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust,desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email.

Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the "i".

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Far Away

2009-05-08T02:42:00.001-07:00

You are far away, but you own my soul.
You have stolen my heart,
Another love I could never know.
A part of me, you will always be.
Only your love can set me free.
Free from the loneliness and the pain.
Will we meet? Or is it all in vain?
I pray to my God above.
Please baby I need your love.

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One Tear

2009-05-08T02:36:00.000-07:00

One tear fell down my eye
when I thought about the way u made me cry
because to know that u were sad or mad or whatever
u always made me think about ur charm and how ur clever
clever to make me think that we're meant to be together
but u knew all along that "us" would always be never
it hurts to know u played me right in front of my face
and it hurts because my heart wasn't willing to win the race
I must not have been that important to u
but I wont let it get me down or make me blue
but I'll rise above the passion that we had
and always stay happy and never sad
my time may be up with u
but there's always room for someone new
who can keep me happy in so many ways
that will love me till the end of my days
who will keep me strong when I'm hurting the most
who will sit back with me and our love will just coast
and even though some of our times will get rough
he'll be by my side even though thing are tough
I loved the way that u made me feel
but someone better came along and his heart is real
and I'm feelin the compassion for him
how the right guy came along and im no longer dim
but only one tear fell down my eye
when I thought about the way that u made me cry!

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Internet Love (by Virginia Wonder)

2009-05-08T02:32:00.000-07:00

I'll never forget the day we met
Upstairs at my grandma's house on the internet
I never thought I could ever feel this way
But instant love is what I found that day
I used to believe that instant love could be
But always with others and never with me
I was truly wrong about that
Because love struck me in a five minute chat
Some people say, love from the internet isn't true
But I know that I was meant for you
Some may ask, how do I know
And the answer is, because my heart told me so
How do you know when you're in love,
Is another question some people want to know
And the answer is, something from inside you begins to glow
I found you on the internet
And for some reason you're the one I can't forget
Some people may disapprove of our internet relationship
But that's ok because no matter what some people may say
I will always love you each and every day.

When I fall in love

2009-05-08T02:30:00.000-07:00

When I fall in love, I want to be
with her always;

In happiness, to smile with her,
and be the one to hug her near.

In sadness, to cry with her,
and be the one to dry her tears.

When I fall in love, I will spend my
every waking and sleeping
moments with her

and catch each moment in its
eternally lovely form.

When I fall in love, I will miss her
the very moment I say 'goodbye'

and my heart will yearn for
the very moment I say ‘hello'.

When I fall in love, all my old hurts
and pains will seem
lost and faded away

and I will be strong and
brave once again.

When I fall in love, I want you
to be happy always, ever

and feel like the happiest
person of them all . . .

Because that's what I will feel,
when I fall in love, with you.

Love Forever Eternity

2009-05-06T06:41:00.002-07:00

You are thousands of miles away,
you know how to make things bright.
It's as if you were sent to me,
to help me through rough days and nights.

I think you may love me,
and I may love you too.
Two loving souls apart,
not really sure what to do.

I will try to always be here,
as I know you will try for me.
We can confide in each other,
and make ourselves happy.

Please don't forget me my love,
I am always here for you.
No matter what hardships,
we will get through.

You make me very happy,
and your eyes show it too.
Let's be friends & lovers forever,
and do the things we do.

Love You Forever Eternity.

PAIN

2009-05-06T06:41:00.001-07:00

Youll just even know how much I cried
everynight and each night to think of you..
Your always on my mind I dindnt know
what happens to us or its just a Communication
Gap. Where are you now? Do i have to wait for you?

You promise me that youll love me untill the end but
why you leave? why you've changed?
im suffering a lot of pain. I could not imagine that
your gone now. I always ask my self
WHY DO I LOVE YOU SO MUCH
but words cannot express how much I feel for you.

I feel so strange everytime your by my side.
But it seems that its a hopeless to wait for you because
dont even seem to care, specially to our relation....
Do i commitment to you? Some might say
i have to forget you since I cant see a possibilities
that your doing your responsebilities to me. I always
try to make amends but all i see is the end..If you leave
somethin to say now you better tell it to me now or
never before I decide to end up.

I can always stand it. But just one thing i leave to you...
its a LOVE....a LOVE that never dies that's why
I'm suffering all of this pain... No comments accepted,
no reasons added its just you that... I love.. Perhaps you
think of me crazy because all of this year, months ,days
Im still here pretenting that you will come back..

This pain i feel inside is deep into my soul and my mind.

Sad Song

2009-05-06T06:40:00.001-07:00

When I am dead ,my dearest
sing a sad song for me
Plant those roses at my head
nor shady cypress tree
Be the green grass above me
with shower and teardrops wet
And if those wilt remember
and if those wilt forget
I shall not see the shadows
I shall not feel the rain
I shall not hear the nightingale
sing on , as if in pain
And dreaming though the twilight
that not rise nor sat
Happy I may remember
and hopely may forget.....

Why the Filipino is SPECIAL

2009-05-06T06:37:00.000-07:00

Filipinos are Brown. Their color is in the center of human racial strains.

This point is not an attempt at racism, but just for many Filipinos to
realize that our color should not be a source of or reason for inferiority
complex. While we pine for a fair complexion, the white people are
religiously tanning themselves, whenever they could, under the sun or some
artificial light, just to approximate the Filipino complexion.

Filipinos are a touching people. We have lots of love and are not afraid to
show it. We almost inevitably create human chains with our perennial akbay
(putting an arm around another shoulder), hawak (hold), yakap (embrace), himas
(caressing stroke), kalabit (touch with the tip of the finger), kalong
(sitting on someone else£f lap)...

We are always reaching out, always seeking interconnection.

Filipinos are linguists. Put a Filipino in any city, any town around the
world. Give him a few months or even weeks and he will speak the local
language there. Filipinos are adept at learning and speaking languages.

In fact, it is not uncommon for Filipinos to speak at least three: his
dialect, Filipino, and English. Of course, a lot speak an added language, be
it Chinese,Spanish or, if he works abroad, the language of his host country.

In addition, Tagalog is not ¡–exist.?While many ¤”onscious?and
¤–nlightened?people of today are just by now striving to be ¤ôolitically
correct?with their language and, in the process, bend to absurd depths in
coining ¤˜ender sensitive?words, Tagalog has, since time immemorial, evolved
gender-neutral words like asawa (husband or wife), anak (son or daughter),
magulang (father or mother), kapatid (brother or sister), biyenan
(father-in-law or mother-in-law), manugang (son or daughter-in-law), bayani
(hero or heroine)...

Our languages and dialects are advanced and, indeed, sophisticated! It is no
small wonder that Jose Rizal, the quintessential Filipino, spoke some
twenty-two languages!

Filipinos are groupies. We love human interaction and company. We always
surround ourselves with people and we hover over them, too.

According to Dr. Patricia Licuanan, a psychologist from Ateneo and Miriam
College, an average Filipino would have and know at least 300 relatives.

At work, we live bayanihan (mutual help); at play, we want a kalaro
(playmate) more than a laruan (toy). At socials, our invitations are open
and it is more
common even for guests to invite and bring in other guests.

In transit, we do not want to be separated from our group. So what do we do
when there is no more space in a vehicle? Kalung-kalong! (Sit on one
another). No one would ever suggest splitting a group and waiting for
another vehicle with more space!

Filipinos are weavers. One look at our baskets, mats, clothes, and other
crafts will reveal the skill of the Filipino weaver and his inclination to
weaving.

This art is a metaphor of the Filipino trait. We are social weavers. We
weave theirs into ours that we all become parts of one another. We place a
lot of premium on pakikisama (getting along) and pakikipagkapwa (relating).
Two of the worst labels, walang pakikipagkapwa (inability to relate), will
be avoided by the Filipino at almost any cost.

We love to blend and harmonize with people, we like to include them in our
¤øribe,?in our ¤—amily?and we like to be included in other people£f families,
too.

Therefore we call our friend£f mother nanay or mommy; we call a friend£f
sister ate (eldest sister), and so on. We even call strangers tita (aunt) or
tito (uncle), tatang (grandfather)...

So extensive is our social openness and interrelations that we have specific
title for extended relations like hipag (sister-in-law), bayaw
(brother-in-law), bilas (spouse-in-law), balae (child-in-law£f parents),
inaanak (godchild), ninong/ ninang (godparents) kinakapatid (godparent£f
child)...

In addition, we have the profound ?EM>ka' institution, loosely translated as
¤–qual to the same kind?as in kasama (of the same company), kaisa (of the
same cause), kapanalig (of the same belief)... In our social fiber, we treat
other people as co-equals.

Filipinos, because of their social ¤ûeaving?traditions, make for excellent
team workers.

Filipinos are adventurers. We have a tradition of separation. Our myths and
legends speak of heroes and heroines who almost always get separated from
their families and loved ones and are taken by circumstances to far-away
lands where they find wealth or power.

Our Spanish colonial history is filled with separations caused by the
reduction (hamleting), and the forced migration to build towns, churches,
fortresses or galleons.

American occupation enlarged the space of Filipino wandering, including
America, and there are documented evidences of Filipino presence in America
as far back as 1587.

Now, Filipinos compose the world£f largest population of overseas workers,
populating and sometimes ¤øhreshing?major capitals, minor towns and even
remote villages around the world. Filipino adventurism has made us today£f
citizens of the world, bringing the bagoong (salty shrimp paste), pansit
(sautŽId noodles), siopao (meat-filled dough), kare-kare (peanut-flavored
dish), dinuguan (innards cooked in pork blood), balut (unhatched duck egg),
and adobo (meat vinaigrette), including the tabo (ladle) and tsinelas
(slippers) all over the world.

Filipinos are excellent at adjustments and improvisation, managing to
recreate their home, or to feel at home anywhere.

Filipinos have pakiramdam (deep feeling/ discernment). We know how to feel
what others feel, sometimes even anticipate what they will feel. Being
manhid (dense) is one of the worst labels anyone could get and will
therefore, avoid at all cost.

We know when a guest is hungry though the insistence on being full is
assured.

We can tell if people are lovers even if they are miles apart.

We know if a person is offended though he may purposely smile.
We know because we feel. In our pakikipagkapwa (relating), we get not only
to wear another man£f shoe but also his heart.

We have a superbly developed and honored gift of discernment, making us
excellent leaders, counselors, and go-betweens.

Filipinos are very spiritual. We are transcendent. We transcend the physical
world, see the unseen and hear the unheard. We have a deep sense of kaba
(premonition) and kutob (hunch). A Filipino wife will instinctively feel her
husband or child is going astray, whether or not telltale signs present
themselves.

Filipino spirituality makes him invoke divine presence or intervention at
nearly every bend of his journey.

Rightly or wrongly, Filipinos are almost always acknowledging, invoking or
driving away spirits into and from their lives. Seemingly trivial or even
incoherent events can take on spiritual significance and will be given such
space or consideration.

The Filipino has a sophisticated, developed pakiramdam. The Filipino, though
becoming more and more modern (hence, materialistic) is still very spiritual
in essence. This inherent and deep spirituality makes the Filipino, once
correctly
Christianized, a major exponent of the faith.

Filipinos are timeless. Despite the nearly half-a-millennium encroachment of
the western clock into our lives, Filipinos--unless on very formal or
official
functions--still measure time not with hours and minutes but with feeling.
This style is ingrained deep in our psyche. Our time is diffused, not
framed. Our appointments are defined by umaga (morning), tanghali (noon),
hapon (afternoon), or gabi (evening).

Our most exact time reference is probably katanghaliang-tapat (high noon),
which still allows many minutes of leeway. That is how Filipino trysts and
occasions are timed: there is really no definite time.

A Filipino event has no clear-cut beginning or ending. We have a fiesta, but
there is bisperas (eve), a day after the fiesta is still considered a good
time to visit.

The Filipino Christmas is not confined to December 25th; it somehow begins
months before December and extends up to the first days of January.

Filipinos say good-bye to guests first at the head of the stairs, then down
to the descamo (landing), to the entresuelo (mezzanine), to the pintuan
(doorway), to the tarangkahan (gate), and if the departing persons are to
take public transportation, up to the bus stop or bus station.

In a way, other people£f tardiness and extended stays can really be annoying,
but this peculiarity is the same charm of Flipinos who, being governed by
timelessness, can show how to find more time to be nice, kind and
accommodating than his prompt and exact brothers elsewhere.

Filipinos are Spaceless. As in the concept of time, the Filipino concept of
space is not numerical. We will not usually express expanse of space with
miles or kilometers but with feelings in how we say malayo (far) or malapit
(near).

Alongside with numberlessness, Filipino space is also boundless.

Indigenous culture did not divide land into private lots but kept it open
for all to partake of its abundance.

The Filipino has avidly remained ¤÷paceless?in many ways. The interior of the
bahay-kubo (hut) can easily become receiving room, sleeping room, kitchen,
dining room, chapel, wake parlor.... depending on the time of the day or the
needs of the moment. The same is true with the bahay na bato (stone house).
Space just flows into the next space that the divisions between the sala,
caida, comedor, or vilada may only be faintly suggested by overhead arches
of filigree.

In much the same way, Filipino concept of space can be so diffused that one£f
party may creep into and actually expropriate the street! A family business
like a sari-sari store or talyer may extend to the sidewalk and street.

Provincial folks dry palayan (rice grain) on the highways! Religious groups
of various persuasions habitually and matter-of-factly commandeer the
streets for processions and parades.

It is not uncommon to close a street to accommodate private functions.
Filipinos eat, sleep, chat, socialize, quarrel, even urinate, nearly
everywhere or just anywhere!

¤„pacelessness,?in the face of modern, especially urban life, can be unlawful
and may really be counter-productive. On the other hand, Filipino
spacelessness, when viewed from his context, is just another manifestation
of his spiritually and communal values. Adapted well to today£f context,
which may mean unstoppable urbanization, Filipino spacelessness may even be
the answer and counter balance to humanity£f greed, selfishness and
isolation.

So what makes the Filipino special? We are brown, spiritual, timeless,
spaceless, linguists, groupies, weavers, adventurers.

Seldom do all these profound qualities find personification in a people.

Filipinos should allow, and should be allowed to contribute their special
traits to the world-wide community of men- but first, we should know and
like ourselves.

Top 10 Ways to Kiss your Love

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1 - ICE KISS
Start your date with an ice kiss. Put an ice cube in your mouth until
your mouth becomes cold. Remove the cube, track down your love and plant
a kiss that will send chills!

2 - ELECTRIC SHOCK KISS
The two of you shuffle your feet furiously on carpet. When you both have
an electric charge, lean over and slowly aim for each other's lips. With
your lips about one-half inch apart, move in even slower until a spark
jumps between the two of you. Instantly after this happens, kiss one
another...the please us the kiss right after the shock!

3 - HERSHEY`S KISSES
Prepare a small bag of Hershey`s kisses and slip it into your love's
purse, briefcase, or lunchbox. Attach a note that reads "SORRY, I CAN'T
BE THERE IN PERSON, BUT THINK OF ME AND DO THE FOLLOWING: Close your
eyes and place the candy between your lips. Drop the candy in your mouth
and roll it on your tongue until it melts.

4 - TOLL KISS
Next time you are driving your love somewhere, stop the car before
crossing a bridge or going through a tunnel, and say the toll must be
paid before you can go any further. Of course,the toll cost in one kiss.

5 - BREAKFAST IN BED KISS
Slip out of bed early and prepare a special "Kissing" breakfast to serve
to your love in bed. Pick foods that you can easily pick up and feed to
your love. Kiss between bites!

6 - CHOCOLATE HEART KISSES
Buy several boxes of little chocolate hearts that have sayings on them.
Pick out all the "KISS ME" hearts and put them in a heart shaped box
with the note "REDEEMABLE ANYTIME, day or night!"

7 - PINK PANTHER KISS
Humming the Pink Panther theme, prowl toward your partner. On the high
note, pounce and pucker. Suggestion-wear only pink!

8 - GOODBYE * 2 KISS
Send off your love in the morning with a quick kiss. As your love turns
to leave, pull him or her back for a second, more

9 - KNOCK-KNOCK KISS
Stage the following knock-knock joke with your love:
KNOCK KNOCK
Who is there?
Kiss
Kiss who?
Kiss who? Why me, of course!

10 - UNEXPECTED KISS
When the two of you are doing the usual, lean over and give your love a
sweet kiss on the cheek for no good reason and whisper...I LOVE YOU!

5 Golden Rules for finding your Life Partner

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A relationship coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the
prospects of long-term marital success.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one
wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it
appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding
Mr/Ms Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting
married, they'll say" "We're in love."

I believe this is the #1 mistake make when they date. Choosing a life
partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound not politically
correct, there's profound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a
good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will
come.

Let me say it again: You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone.
You need a lot more. Here are 5 questions you must ask yourself if you're
serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20
to 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do
with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to
share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow
apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work,
you need to know what you want out of life bottom line -
and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this
person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.
Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this
person. The basis of having communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't
get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A
colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel
afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.

Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe
with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test?
Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular
basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine
defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do
the right thing." So ask about your significant other. What do they do with
their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is
not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are
essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to
personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone
whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of
doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability
to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they are
wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the
following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to,
such as waiters, bus boy, taxi driver, etc. How do they treat parents and
siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have
gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect
that they'll have gratitude for you - who can't do nearly as much for them?

Do they gossip and speak badly about others?
Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that
someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after
we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of
trying to "improve" them after they're married. As

a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change
after the marriage - for the worse!"

If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are
not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating does not have to be difficult
and treacherous.

* * * * *

The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your
heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be
sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your
finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble
because you didn't do your homework.

WHAT IS LOVE?

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Love is like magic and it always will be
For love still remains lifes sweet mystery

Love works in ways that are wondrous and strange
And there is nothing in life that love cannot change

Love can transform the most commonplace
Into beauty and splendor and sweetness and grace

Love is unselfish, understanding and kind
For it sees with its heart and not with its mind

Love gives and forgives
There is nothing too much
For love to heal with its magic touch

Love is the language that every heart speaks
For love is the one thing that every heart seek

AROUND THE WORLD WITH LOVE

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Romantic Acronyms

Remember these...?J.A.P.A.N Just Always Pray At Night.

H.O.L.L.A.N.D Hope Our Love Lasts And Never Dies.

I.T.A.L.Y. I Trust And Love You.

Akala ninyo yun lang ah .. heto pa....

L.I.B.Y.A. Love Is Beautiful; You Also.

F.R.A.N.C.E. Friendships Remain And Never Can End.

C.H.I.N.A. Come Here! I Need Affection.

B.U.R.M.A. Between Us, Remember Me Always.

I.N.D.I.A. I Nearly Died In Adoration.

K.E.N.Y.A. Keep Everything Nice, Yet Arousing.

C.A.N.A.D.A. Cute And Naughty Action that Developed into Attraction

P.E.R.U. Porget Everyone... Remember Us.

K.O.R.E.A. Keep Optimistic Regardless of Every Adversity.

E.G.Y.P.T. Everything's Great, You Pretty Thing!

Y.E.M.E.N. Yugyugan Every Morning, Every Night.

R.U.S.S.I.A. Romance Under the Sky & Stars is Intimate Always.

Akala ninyo yun lang ah .. heto pa.... ulit...

M.A.N.I.L.A. May All Nights Inspire Love Always.

B.A.L.I.W.A.G . Beauty And Love I Will Always Give.

M.A.L.A.B.O.N. May A Lasting Affair Be Ours Now.

I.M.U.S. I Miss U, Sweetheart.

P.A.S.I.G. Please Always Say I'm Gorgeous.

C.E.B.U. Change Everything... But Us.

P.A.R.A.N.A.Q.U.E. Please Always Remain Adorable, Nice And Quiet Under Ecstacy.

T.O.N.D.O. Tonight's Our Night, Dearest One.

P.A.S.A.Y. Pretty And Sexy Are You.

And the last but not the least....

M.A.R.L.B.O.R.O. Men Always Remember Love Because Of Romance Only.

P.H.I.L.I.P.P.I.N.E.S. Pumping Hot.. I Love It! Please Please.. I Need Erotic Stimulation!